This is what a decade of exploration, education, and content creation looks like. There's something here for everyone.
Some of my earliest readers joined my Sexy Study Group in 2020. Some of my people found me during my cooking days. And because I'm a woman on the internet, new people find me every day!
Whether you found me through a search, one of our workshops, or my Substack, you found your way here. And I'm so grateful.
Welcome! Let me fully introduce myself and my expansive body of work.
I'm Andrea: Sex & Relationship Coach, Sex Educator. I'm The Nerdy Tantrika, an Erotic Mystic, the Sexy Wifey.
I work with midlife women, and those who love them, on delicious things: desire, embodiment, and the sex you actually want. And I work with couples on the harder stuff: communication challenges, mismatched desire, heartbreak. As I've gotten older, my work has shifted toward perimenopausal pleasures, sex and aging, and conscious relationships. Each of these is an initiation into the body, heart, spirit, and dynamic partnerships.
I've been studying this work for more than a decade, and teaching about it for the last six years. Along the way I built a lot of content: essays, workshops, practices, replays, worksheets, a whole library of shame-free pleasure education.
Here's the Map to My World of Content
During my years as a sex educator, I've come to think of my work as planting seeds: each piece of content is an offering you can ground into, with gentle support along the way for when you choose to root more deeply.
One of the things that's important to me is creating an access ladder into this work, meaning I have content available for a range of budgets. You can engage for free, for minimal cost, or choose our highest offering of individual or couples coaching. As I build my content library, I'll continue to create offerings with the access ladder in mind.
I invite you to find something juicy, something new-to-you, maybe something edgy. And let yourself immerse within this flow of the erotic…
If you want to read
This blog and my Substack are free, always. They're where I write about perimenopause and desire, mindful relationship tools, pleasure as medicine, stories about my own life, and my learnings along this path. A few reader favorites to start with:
- How to Have Sex in Perimenopause
- Sex as Performance
- How to Practice Solo Tantra
- The Four Realms of Sexuality
If you want to practice solo
The Pleasure Starter Kit is free and it's how many people come into my community. You can try the Sexy Breathwork, the Yes/No/Maybe & Fantasy List, the Pleasure Mapping Guide, and watch the Sexual Sophistication workshop replay. Little seeds of inspiration and sexy wisdom to plant in your heart, mind, body, and spirit.
If you want to gather in community
Mindful Sex Monthly is my free online workshop series, hosted each month by me and my Sex Therapist husband, Christopher. We've been teaching for over three years in this particular format, and it's so FUN!
Each workshop is lively, warm, and open to everyone, no experience needed. Every previous workshop lives in my replay library on the Collective, where you can find workshops about Polarity & Desire, Hot & Sexy Perimenopause, Erotic Imagination & Fantasy, Reckoning + Repair, and more.
And in the Bay Area, we host events monthly and have a lot on deck for the future. Staying connected on my newsletter is the best way to know what's coming up locally. The next in-person event is Tantric Date Night (Part 2) on November 7.
If you want to go deeper on one practice
Individual workshop replays and guides are available in my shop. This includes a replay of our popular Tantric Date Night workshop, Mindful Erotic Practices for Men and Women, and Tantric Massage for All Bodies. Choose one for this weekend, and let yourself explore on your own time. There's much more to come for the shop in 2027.
If you want to expand your pleasure practices
The Pleasure Collective is $25 a month. This custom-built site houses my entire education library: over a hundred videos across fifteen categories, every workshop replay, engaging workbooks, and guided practices.
If you want to work directly with me
Tantra Mini Sessions are one-hour private sessions, built around a single mind/body practice you want to explore, for women and couples. Individual and couples coaching is where the real transformation happens. If you're curious whether we'd be a fit together, there's a free 20-minute discovery call waiting for you.
And for partnered folks, Christopher and I now offer the Relationship Checkup: the full Gottman assessment plus a 90-minute session with both of us, a Sex Therapist and a Sex Coach in one room with you.
May you find your seed in this body of work… and may it continue to grow within you.
Pleasure is medicine. And midlife is your reclamation era.
Not sure where to begin? Start with the free Pleasure Starter Kit.