The Relationship
Checkup
See your partnership clearly, then choose where it grows next. A research-based Gottman assessment plus a 90-minute session with a Gottman-trained Sex Therapist and a Sex Coach, together.
Book Your CheckupKnow each other
as you are now.
You wouldn't skip years of checkups for your body. Your relationship deserves the same loving attention. Partners grow, desires shift, and the person beside you today is not the person you met. The Relationship Checkup gives you a clear, compassionate picture of what's thriving between you and where you're longing for more.
Then we sit down together, the four of us, to turn that picture into a path: healing the tender spots, celebrating your strengths, and co-creating a partnership that feels conscious, connected, and alive.
What you receive: The complete Gottman Relationship Checkup assessment for both partners, plus one 90-minute guided session with Christopher and Andrea to review your results and map your next steps.
Bonus: Our Yes, No, Maybe (and Fantasy) List, a worksheet for exploring your sexuality and desires together.
Built on 50 years of
relationship research.
Created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the Checkup is a confidential online assessment of 337 thoughtful questions that go beyond the surface to the heart of your connection. It explores five key areas of your relationship:
The warmth, affection, and closeness that hold you together.
Your current stress levels and how you move through disagreement.
The rituals, values, and goals you're building together.
The foundation of safety and devotion in your partnership.
Individual factors, including mental and physical health, that can affect your relationship.
Three simple steps.
Sign up below and
receive your individual invites
Once you send us a note, you and your partner each receive your own private invitation to create a separate account on Gottman Connect.
Complete the
assessments
Each of you answers privately, at your own pace. Your answers are encrypted and never visible to your partner, so you can be fully honest. You can also complete the Yes, No, Maybe List to add a layer of sexual desire and expression that the Gottman's leave out.
Schedule your session
with both of us
Once you complte your assessments, you'll be givena. link to schedule a 90-minute session. We'll walk you through your strengths and challenges and guide you toward healing, repair, and next steps to deepen your conscious, co-created partnership.
The Checkup is for you if...
- You love each other and want to keep choosing each other, consciously
- You keep circling the same conflicts and want to finally understand them
- You've drifted into roommate mode and miss feeling desired and close
- You're approaching a big transition: marriage, a move, kids, midlife, or an empty nest
- You want an honest, research-based look at your relationship, not guesswork or projections
- You want a space that's explicitly queer, trans, kink, polyam, and ENM affirming
An investment in your love.
Per couple
- The complete Gottman Relationship Checkup for both partners
- A 90-minute session with Christopher and Andrea
- Clear, personalized next steps for your partnership
- Bonus: The Yes, No, Maybe (and Fantasy) List worksheet for exploring your sexuality and desires
Psychotherapist
and Certified Sex Therapist
Christopher has over 20 years in practice with training from Baylor College of Medicine, The Menninger Clinic, the Gottman Institute, and University of Michigan's Sexual Health Certificate Program. He specializes in helping couples build "rockstar relationships."
Holistic Sex & Relationship Coach
and Sex Educator
Andrea blends the spiritual and scientific to help people experience deeper pleasure and sensual connection. Certified in Urban Tantra and as a Sex Educator, with a Master's in Gender Studies from University of Hawaii at Manoa. Queer, kinky Tantrika, queer/trans/polyam/ENM affirming.
Frequently asked.
How long does the assessment take?
Most people take about an hour. You can pause anytime and pick up right where you left off.
Can my partner see my answers?
No. You each have your own private login, and your responses are encrypted. Only Christopher sees your full answers, so you can be completely honest.
Can we skip questions?
The assessment is designed to be completed in full so we get the whole picture. Many questions include optional comment boxes where you can add context or nuance.
Is the Checkup LGBTQ+ inclusive?
Yes. The Gottman Relationship Checkup is designed for every couple, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, and our space is explicitly queer, trans, kink, polyam, and ENM affirming.
Where does the session take place?
[SESSION FORMAT: in person in Berkeley and/or virtual]
What if we want support beyond the session?
Many couples leave with a clear sense of what's next. If you'd like ongoing support, we'll talk through options for continuing with Christopher, Andrea, or both.
Your love deserves
a closer look.
Book your Relationship Checkup and start co-creating the partnership you both long for.
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