Tantric Date Night
Workbook
Seven foundational Tantric practices to help you drop into your body, create deeper connection, and build a rich intimacy with yourself or your special someone.
⬇ Download FreeWe are naturally wired for pleasure
from head to toe.
With practices that create stillness, slowness, and attention, we create access to deeper pleasures in our bodies and richer connections in our hearts.
Each practice in this workbook can be explored solo (except the two breath practices that require a partner). The practices are simple to learn and offer profound depth in the simplicity. Every time you practice, you meet yourself and your partner anew.
When we slow down and feel, sometimes it will be joyful, sometimes it will be full of emotions, sometimes it will be very hot, and sometimes everything, everywhere, all at once. All of it is welcome.
The seven practices
Solo Eye-Gazing
Sit with yourself in the mirror and gaze into your own eye with loving attention. Meet yourself beyond the everyday. See your intrinsic goodness.
Partnered Eye-Gazing
Gaze deeply into your person's non-dominant eye. Witness them, and let yourself be witnessed. What does it feel like to truly see someone this way?
Rock Your Body
Engage your pelvic floor to generate physical energy and heat in your root and sex center. Use it as a pump to move energy through your whole body.
Heart-Opening Breath
A guided breath practice moving awareness from throat to heart to solar plexus to genitals. Open your whole channel and feel the flow.
Synchronized Breathing
Sit across from your partner and breathe together: inhaling at the same time, exhaling at the same time. A ritual of co-regulation and presence.
Asynchronous Breathing
One partner exhales into the other's mouth as they inhale, then switch. Give your partner your love and energy with every breath. Very activating.
Four Layers of Touch
Our skin is our largest sex organ. This practice guides you through four layers: energetic touch, hover touch, the softest touch, and the grabby touch. A full-body exploration of what sensation can actually be.
What is the point of all
these practices?
At our Tantric Date Night in April, one of the attendees asked this question. We had already moved through the eye-gazing and the heart-connecting guided breath practice. It startled me at first. And in our May event, I brought this question into each practice, to help people bridge the gap between "this feels nice" and "wtf." So if you've wondered what is the freakin' point of all this breathing and stillness and Tantric stuff, here are some answers, curious one.
Slowing down
One of the foundational skills for human beings in a world that wants us to keep moving, stay distracted, be disembodied. We slow down because it helps our nervous system catch up with the moment. We slow down to feel our breath, the timeless magic that flows through us daily. We slow down because underneath that busy flow of life is a tsunami of feelings and sensations that have yet to be felt.
Stillness
We sit with ourselves in stillness to find our center point within. Stillness allows feelings to flow and sensations to arise, all of which gives us information about our body. Stillness offers an antidote to sexual pleasure that is rushed, goal-oriented, and disconnected. When we find stillness in our body we can find more of ourselves.
Eye-gazing
One of the sweetest, quickest ways to drop in with someone else. In the busy movement of the day, we often miss connection with our Beloved. But when we slow down, get still, and eye-gaze we can remember that they are wildly expansive, multi-dimensional cosmic beings. And omg, you are too. It helps us remember that we're each fully magic, made up of parts, and ever-changing.
Breath practices
Feeling your breath in any given moment is a gift we give our nervous systems. The synchronous and asynchronous breathing practices in the workbook give you two ways to play with breath as energy-building and energy-connecting.
Bringing it into your
real sex life.
These individual, embodied practices can be applied to both your self-pleasure and your shared intimate experiences. Adding one or all of the above takes sex from regular and routine into something more connected, more sensational, perhaps even transcendent.
- Bring eye-gazing into missionary position to take it from friction-focused into deep, centered closeness.
- Anytime you're touching your genitals, stop moving. Embrace the magic of stillness, to allow your body to soften, to find what arises as your next desire, to breathe in the pleasure.
- Instead of moving quickly towards orgasm, focus on your breath. Imagine each breath increases your pleasure, breathing all the way down to your genitals and exhaling back up again. More breath = more pleasure.
- Slowness enhances everything. Slow down your shower, your eating, your touch, your kissing.
Tantric Date Night Workbook
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