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Get to Know Hawaii’s Favorite Sex Coach

Welcome, erotic explorers and curious lovers. Allow me to be your guide to deeper pleasure, more rewarding intimacy, and better relationships.

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Aloha, I’m Andrea! I work as a Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator… but sometimes it’s easier just to say Sex Coach. My coaching and teaching blends the spiritual and scientific to help you experience deeper pleasure and sensual connection with self and other.  

In my holistic approach to sexual wellness, I use tools from Tantra, mindfulness, and yoga to help people find new ways of relating to their own body and others, and help everyone rethink sex and pleasure. I am certified as a practitioner of Urban Tantra and a Certified Sex Educator. I also have a Master’s degree in Gender Studies from the University of Hawaii. I am a lifelong student, and my training continues with teachers from around the world so that I can deepen my practices and build my teaching toolkit.

Find my services for individuals and couples, and I teach workshops online and in-person on Oahu. Find all my free resources on InstagramTikTok & Facebook and get my uncensored conversations on Patreon. I’m queer/kink/trans/polyam/ENM friendly + positive 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️  

Pathways to Pleasure Coaching

My teaching path started with cooking and wellness. For 10+ years I taught plant-based cooking and fermentation classes in Hawaii and California. I got into Tantric sexuality and mindful sex through my own needs and desires. I know how it feels to have stored trauma, pain, and fear in the body. Pleasure practices, along with plant medicine tools, embodiment practices, therapeutic support and gentle touch, I’m learning to feel real safety and real pleasure in my body for the first time… ever. It’s a practice to learn to LIVE THERE, in my pleasure body. I can guide you, too.

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Vision & Values that Guide Me

Honoring Exploration: Help people have #sexworthhaving I create safe, judgment-free containers & resources for people to explore their desires, needs, and traumas to untangle their sexuality from obligation, suffering, and social conditioning.

Uniting the holistic and the practical. I make holistic sexual healing accessible to everyone by bridging the gap between the spiritual and scientific.

Rejecting stigma and norms. I teach people about stigmas and norms so they can redefine sexuality on their own terms in their own unique ways, unburdened by shame & silence.

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My mission as a Pleasure Coach

I am on a mission to fully integrate sexual wellness and conscious sex practices into the larger ecosystem of holistic healing.

I believe that everyone deserves to feel fulfilled in all aspects of their lives, especially pleasure and sex. I guide my clients through the process of discovering and claiming their unique definitions of sexuality and sexual wellness by combining holistic practices with science-backed research.

My Values & Ethics


I’m a queer, polyamorous, cis-gender white women, and while these particular labels & privileges inform my worldview, in my work I strive to create safe enough (safer) spaces for learning for all humans. All relational dynamics, sexual orientations, and gender expressions are welcome. I donate a portion of my proceeds to local, BIWOC feminist organizations.

Openness & Transparency

This work can be hard! Most of us have been shamed by sex-negative cultural, religious, and social dynamics. Working together, we’ll explore what’s most interesting, important, and powerful for you in this moment, and we’ll unwind some of the cultural narratives that negatively impact our relationships.

Pleasure = Power

We’re not going to be able to overthrow the patriarchy if we’re not tapped into our PLEASURE. Pleasure, desire, and sexual energy is power, and it can be cultivated to help us do good in the world. Reclamation of our inherent right to pleasure and joy within our bodies is an act of rebellion in a world that tells us female/femme/queer bodies are not worthy of pleasure.

Learnings & Certifications

I am a lifelong learner, and I invest lots of time and money into improving my own skills and practices. I have studied with a range of global teachers over many years—and I continue to do so.

Urban Tantra founder Barbara Carrellas teaches us that “ecstasy is necessary.” I read Barbara’s book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, about six years ago, and it’s one of the foundational texts that informs my work and my teaching ethos. I attended the Urban Tantra Professional Training Program in April 2022.

In 2022 I became a certified Sex Educator with the Everyone Deserves Sex Education program, founded by Anne Hodder-Shipp and featuring a collective of amazing educators. EDSE was my program of choice as it’s LGBTQIA-inclusive, anti-racist, and trauma-informed. This program requires continuing education and I am in current standing with their program policies.

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